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Anxiety-Driven Romance: Breaking up With Your Mind
It’s time you break up with your mind and begin dating with your heart…
I’ve lived inside my mind for years — far too long for anyone seriously interested in falling in love — but I can tell you this: you can think yourself out of a relationship.
Whenever I start to fall for someone, my defense mechanisms kick in and I activate my inner saboteur — to cook up a little self-sabotage. I mean, who doesn’t like to watch all of their hard work go up in flames?
My brain concocts all kinds of schemes, making mountains out of mole hills and arguments out of thin air; and, in the end, I feel safe! Why? Because now I know exactly how the relationship will end and who’s to blame. After all, why leave the fate of my relationship to chance when I can fuck it up?
That was the old me. After a series of long, drawn-out situationships, I can now stand here before you and tell you this: you can’t use your academic mind to solve the somatic issues of the heart.
While the brain understands the difference between physical and emotional needs/pain, very often we shout over these cues directing our spiritual paths. And love is definitely spiritual.
